Some movies I watched over Thanksgiving break

It was a truly leisurely break. No travel, no guests, just the four of us sleeping in, eating good food, socializing a little bit. The weather turned cold, which further encouraged my indoor cat tendencies. I made good progress on my always growing pile of New Yorkers, read articles online, ate many snacks, went to … Continue reading Some movies I watched over Thanksgiving break →

The language of birds and comparative death studies

What does the natural world care about elections and other human activities that feel so consequential to us? Two recent New Yorker articles about animals captivated me; they hit on similar themes that, each in their own way, remind us that we are not as special as we like to think. In “Pecking Order: Language … Continue reading The language of birds and comparative death studies →

Watching the detectives

After we finished the sitcom “Kim’s Convenience,” my 12-yo and I started watching “Brooklyn 99,” which first aired in 2013. Looking for another show we could enjoy together, I suggested it not only because I remember hearing good reviews, but because I clicked on a clip of the show’s final episode that appeared in my … Continue reading Watching the detectives →

American city – notes from a road trip

Over the years, we’ve visited a handful of midwestern cities from our home outside of Chicago. This year, we had one week in between my younger kid’s two summer camps, so we decided to visit Minneapolis-Saint Paul. A six-hour drive mostly on I-90, it was far enough to feel like we were getting away and … Continue reading American city – notes from a road trip →

Paris is a Palimpsest

After we’d been dating for about a year, my boyfriend, a graduate student of comparative literature at a nearby university in southern California, got a fellowship to study in Paris for the year, and I received a dissertation fellowship from my English department, freeing me from teaching obligations. To save money, I returned home to … Continue reading Paris is a Palimpsest →

Obsolete

I just saw a funny meme on Facebook about a mom teaching her kids to put gas in the car. After the lesson, one kid says, “thanks, but I’m not going to be driving a gas car” and the other kid says, “it’s like that time you taught us how to use a pay phone.” … Continue reading Obsolete →

Family movie journal

A few years before we had kids, when my husband and I had a lot more time to watch movies, I started a movie journal to keep track of what we’d watched and rate them on a 5-star scale. For each movie, I’d jot down the title, whether we’d seen it in the theater, on … Continue reading Family movie journal →

#17 – february 8: the tyranny of normal

2019. I look back at photos from that time with a bit of wonder. My 50th birthday celebration at a Chicago restaurant with friends who’d traveled from other cities. Our spring break trip to Korea with my mother. The kids’ birthday parties at one venue or another. Our then-6th grader’s first middle school dance. One … Continue reading #17 – february 8: the tyranny of normal →

A communal miscarriage

After many discouraging years on the academic job market, waiting for our lives to settle into stability, my husband and I agreed we couldn’t wait too much longer and we started trying for a baby. We were living in New Jersey at the time, close to my family and many of our friends. That year, … Continue reading A communal miscarriage →

#15 – august 27: funeral for a hamster

In early April 2020, when we knew lockdown wasn’t going to be for just a few weeks, I posted about our deciding to get a new hamster after my younger son had lost two in quick succession. I wrote then, “Whatever happens, I will be grateful if Potato gets us through this pandemic.” Turns out … Continue reading #15 – august 27: funeral for a hamster →